Lisa Simpson at Stuff-n-Hug
This really says a LOT
simpsons is so next level
I took my girls shopping for some summer clothes Saturday. T-shirts, jeans, shorts. They both love Marvel and superheroes and transformers and Hogwarts and stuff like that. Not so much pink and pretty stuff. They’ve both grown so much that this was the first time we were shopping in the grown up women’s section. Boring selections when it comes to t-shirts. Flowers and zebras and butterflies.
But what was making it near impossible was that all the t-shirts, the few they kinda-sorta liked, had either low/wide cut necklines or were extremely tailored for nipped in waists with little cap sleeves and short hemlines. Showing way too much skin for their ages as far as we all were concerned. So we headed over to the men’s section. A whole WALL full of properly cut tees with great designs on them!
They ran over and started hunting up things they liked. Two women were stocking shelves.
"You know these are MEN’S shirts."
"The girl’s section is over there."
"There’s not gonna be any Princesses over here, darlin’."
"These shirts are for the boys."
"This isn’t going to fit you right, honey."
I ignored the first time one of them said anything. Just told the girls what sizes they needed to look for and that they could each pick five shirts. But the women kept interrupting me. I tried to stay polite. “Yes, I know this is the men’s department.” But they kept making comments.
Finally I was getting mad. I told them we didn’t need any help. My girls were allowed to wear whatever they liked and they didn’t like the shirt designs in the women’s section and I didn’t like how low the necklines were.
Instead of just noticing that I was getting fed up with their “help”, they started arguing with me! One of them told my oldest, who is conventionally cute and skinny and starting to fill out (but still only 12), that “Oh that’s just because he’s your daddy. He doesn’t understand that a girl wants to show off for the boys!”
That was the last straw. I’m afraid I totally lost my temper. I told them (amongst a few other choice words) that they’d better walk away and come back to finish restocking the shelves once we’d left the area or I’d get the manager.
I try hard not to be rude to sales people and people in the service industry. That’s a difficult and thankless job. But for fuck’s sake! The first few comments were bad enough, but trying to undermine my moral authority with my kids? All in the name of gender and sexuality policing. They couldn’t get past the idea that my girls might prefer t-shirts that had “boy” designs on them and that didn’t hyper-sexualize them. The idea was abhorrent to them and they had to interfere and then KEEP interfering.
Once our sales “help” was gone, the girls found a bunch of shirts. Captain America, Minecraft, Doctor Who, Batman, Avengers. All the stuff they’re into. I mean, they also like MLP and Littlest Pet Shop and soft fluffy stuffed animals and Monster High dolls. We hit the toy section too for some of that stuff cos they brought their saved-up allowances with them.
At least we didn’t get any “help” in the shoe section. They’d’ve had a cow again cos while the youngest found a cute pair of pink and purple sneakers, I ‘let’ the oldest go to the men’s section and find a cool pair of dark blue and grey ones. (and omg their feet are huge! youngest wears a women’s size 9.5 and oldest wars a men’s 8. FFS, I wear a men’s 8.5. Their feet are almost as big as mine! How’d that happen?)
I hate this gender policing shit and won’t put up with it at all. I always feel for kids whose parents enforce this shit. I see it at stores when a girl or boy strays outside the lines, too often the parents are the one who pull them back into their place and it makes me sad.
Like, their friends who are boys, when they’re over at our house, they sit there and play with the girl toys as much as the boy toys. One of the boys loves playing LPS with my youngest, making up stories and stuff. The first time I walked out into the playroom and saw, he got so nervous and tried to say that he was just doing it to be nice to her. I told him that it was fine. He could play with whatever he wanted to and I wouldn’t tell anyone. Word got around to the other boys I guess cos now they all play whatever and don’t stop if I “catch” them.
I get shit from my mom about it too. I’m trying to make them into little boys. I shouldn’t have bought them trucks and toy swords when they were little. The oldest needs to learn to start wearing dresses now not just blue jeans. Why did I ‘let’ her get her hair cut short? I need to put the youngest on a diet and make her wear training bras. Why do I let them play with boys? etc etc etc.
I just find it so hard to believe that it’s the 21st century and people are still getting their knickers in a twist over this kind of thing.
^^^^ This man deserves a dad of the year award. ^^^^
Thank dog my mom let me wear what I wanted (within reason - nothing too revealing) and let me play with whatever toys I wanted. I had Barbies and Polly Pocket but I also had Batman and Rogue and Storm and Jean Grey action figures, and dinosaurs from Jurassic Park (with removable pieces so the dinosaurs could get “injured” from fighting LOL). Anyway, mad props to the dad above for letting his girls be who they are.
Disney and Marketing Language: Disney Princess Tiaras
All of these item descriptions were found on Disney’s online store, click names for links.
- Keepin that native hair under control with a tiara styled specifically after something popularized by European royalty, encrusted jewels and all? This is kind of like when people claim their great-grandmother was a “native american princess.” (it’s superimposing European ideals and concepts over what Native cultures really were despite the history of what Europeans did to Native people)
- Feathers aren’t even a part of Pocahontas’s original design (and this design is labeled “Feather girl”). This is not a comment about designs changing so much as it is a comment about there being numerous distinct and diverse native groups, but a feather is treated as a recognizable symbol for all of them, and any character, at any point in time
- Choosing a gilded, jeweled feather ( it’s a peacock feather: not even native to North America) adds an additional context of “every girl wants to wear gold on their head like a typical European princess” which was not part of movie Pocahontas’s personality, and treads even more over the original (real) Pocahontas and her history.
- Did anyone remember what problems a search for gold created in this movie??! hii
- JASMINE’S DREAM WAS NOT FULFILLED BY BEING A SULTAN’S DAUGHTER?? That is the exact opposite of Jasmine; she hated being treated like that was her sole identity. She was not just someone’s daughter; being a rich, powerful man’s daughter was not her dream!
- What is up with the phrase “Arabian desert dream”
- Also worth noting that the description is about how your “princess” [daughter, etc] will feel, which makes it doubly messed up.
- Included this as an example of how the language in these is very gender specific. HER beauty will be frozen in time; the tiaras themselves are labeled “Tiaras for girls" just in case anyone was getting ideas of not following the gender binary and allowing anyone to play with tiaras or something
- The language in Disney merchandising for girls often comes down to “beauty.” Disney’s merchandise is split into specific “Girls” and “Boys” categories (which is unnecessary and detrimental but done because they assume it leads to more profit, and profit > child’s well being), yet similar words (like handsome) are not used in encouraging text for boys’ toys. (ex: Captain Hook costume)
“China girl”?? For comparison, Sofia the first is “crowning glory,” Rapunzel is “art of gold,” Merida is “fiery band.” So I have no idea why Mulan did not receive some pun-y description that would have been less questionable. It’s like calling Merida’s “Scotland girl,” and there isn’t even the same history there of racial othering.
Totally misses the point that 0% of the honor Mulan brought came from looking at her reflection. So why does your daughter need to? Literally the point of the movie is seeing the heroism within and not relying on external appearances in how we judge people. This is an example, again, of where merchandising falls into the constraints of sexist thinking when the movie it was based on never did to the same extent.
Rather than implying that wearing a glittery tiara is how a girl can bring “honor to us all,” it would be ideal to at least use wording that implies play/pretending to be a hero brings honor. But the reinforcement of “looking in her reflection” seems to concentrate seeing play as the act of wearing, rather than imagining heroism. I know it’s subtle and some people just don’t care, but no one is pushed into a gender binary overnight. It’s little pushes and prods over a long span of childhood. This isn’t about saying glittery is wrong, btw. It’s about consistently trying to define girlhood as “beauty.”
Is anyone having a really hard time proving these even exist? Because I’ve seen no articles on this, no stores selling these, including Disney Bridal, JC Penny, Tiffany & Co. and Disney.com the closest I’m finding to anything like this is a bunch of crappy plastic ones. OP please link to these.
haha I realized after I wrote it that people might not realize so I added a note, but all of the names are links to the specific pages. Click on the names
….Wait a minute…..You’re getting in a twist over something that’s $13.00 I thought these were legitimate pieces of jewelry and instead I’m getting a toy. You basically wrote a term paper over a toy. A toy marketed to girls with the attention span of a goldfish. Do you really think they care about what the toy is called? Do you think they even comprehend the story in the movie? They’re probably like 2 years old. Do you expect them to have a college level knowledge of history?
A) I’m surprised/ amused that you thought these were real gold, but no, they’re not, yes they are toys
B) yes my entire blog is focused on examining merchandise and media aimed at kids. It’s not about any one product it’s about the accumulated effect of continual messages about gender/race/culture/beauty etc
C) My blog is not written for children or their attention spans, it’s written for discerning adults who have greater consumer power in the market (ultimately it is not really children who typically buy toys, it’s their parents, etc.)
I’m sure a lot of you already read XKCD but this is very very important.
"Defending a position by citing free speech is kind of the ultimate concession; you’re saying that the most compelling thing you can say for your position is that it’s not literally illegal to express."
I’m on tumblr mobile and the picture is blank so I’m guessing it has something to do with irony
Teenager buys £600 worth of shopping for 4p and donates food to charity
A teenager collected hundreds of supermarket coupons to buy £600 worth of shopping for 4p so he could give the food to families.
Jordon Cox, 16, scoured endless websites and magazines and gathered hundreds of coupons for dozens of products.
After spending hours each day searching the internet for coupons, he managed to collect 470, which he took to his local supermarket, and filled three trolleys with food and household items.
The bill came to £572.16, but once the coupons were factored in the bill was reduced to just 4p - a saving of 99.81 per cent.
The teenager, of Brentwood in Essex, donated all his food to the charity Doorstep which gives food to disadvantaged families.
More at the link.
Fucking beautiful. But, you know, teenagers don’t do anything important
MULTIPLE people I am following are asking what these are, why we call them holy when only one has a hole. If they are made by the same company, and what is with us praising these.
I weep for you people, from other countries. WEEP.
Aussies may have Tim Tams.
EU may have Kinder and All sorts of fantastic biscuits.
USA? Has GIRL SCOUT COOKIES.
Not only are these things SINFULLY good, they are only sold for a bit over 1 month of the year, depending on region, that month of the year changes.
That middle one is Chocolate, Caramel Coconut. The left one is Peanut Butter, chocolate and sex on a stick aka crumbly cookie/biscuit.
You can eat em straight from the box, but pros? Pros eat these bad boys frozen.
And thin mints, man. that right one? THIN MINTS. You may have heard of these. Chocolate biscuit infused with mint essence coated in dark chocolate.
Those thin mints.
The Thin Mints for which every grown ass American on a Medical Diet cries for when they see a girlscout.
The Thin Mints with 1000 copycats, and not a one of them successful.
Girl Scouts, regularly boycotted by Fundies and Anti-choice nutters, not only taste amazing, but you get the joy of giving money to a good cause, while subtly flipping the bird at overly wound up fundie groups.
It’s like donating to Planned Parenthood and getting a box of double dark chocolate with fudge filling tim-tams especially made for them.
The reason we eat them frozen is that we buy as many boxes of thin mints as we possibly can during that short sale period, and then store them for the dark months, like proud American squirrels.
In fact this is called “Swans Lake”, and it is an aquascape by Paweł Szewczak, displayed in a Polish aquarist shop called AtollZoo.
Map of World Mythology
Whaddaya think, guys?
Simple, but pretty!